Dethroned: Shame

There are nooks and crannies of our past that we do not want anyone to see. The enemy desires to magnify those dark areas of our past to keep us from pursuing our desires and goals. Essentially, whether we realize it or not, we place those dark things of our past on the throne seat of our hearts.

At the root of it all is shame. We are ashamed of the choices we made, the connections we created, and the consequences of our decisions. Shame cannot sit in the place that was created for our Father. Sister, shame cannot be magnified. Shame cannot take the place of the Lord and Savior of our life.

Sister, did you see the declaration of the Lord your God?! He says you will forget the shame of your youth! So it has to be removed from the nooks and crannies of your life! Shine the Father’s light on those dark and hidden places. Make Satan and his minions bow to the truth of the King! Shame has been dethroned! You are no longer bounded by the foolishness of your past.

We have been redeemed, sister. We have been set free as we declare Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior. Let’s dethrone that ugly face of shame. We must live unashamed! We must live set free. We must remember that we have been forgiven by our Good, Good Father.

For the Scripture says, “Everyone who believes in him will not be put to shame.” Romans 10:11

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The Parallel Process…

In the world of Human Services (and other professions), the parallel process is stressed. The concept is that as the operation of the agency affects how clients or families operate in their home.

For example, with home visiting, the supervisor is attentive, reflective, and supportive to their staff so that when the staff member goes into the home-they will also be reflective, supportive, and attentive to their families they are serving. In return, the hope is that the caregivers of the family will be supportive, reflective, and attentive to their children.

This parallel process is reflected in our relationship with God as well. God, the Father, loves us freely, forgives freely, and extends grace frequently. He does this as we accept Him. He does this as we ask Him. We, in return, are called to love others freely, forgive others freely, and extend grace to others frequently. As we do these things, perhaps others will do it in return. Perhaps as you love because you are loved, others will come to love God through Jesus Christ.

The next time someone makes you mad, frustrates you, or hurts you-remember the power of this process. Remember how you are loved without reservation. Remember how ALL our sins are forgiven. Remember the grace you freely receive everyday.

We know it’s hard to love and forgive those who are your enemies. It’s hard to extend grace to the same person about the same thing over and over again. But lean on the Lord for that strength, lean on the Lord for that encouragement, and lean on Him because He loves you and cares for you!

The parallel process in Christ helps you tell the world about Christ’s love and power! This process helps us to remember how we are loved and forgiven by the Lord. This process helps His name be spread around the world!

Tell the world about Christ with your love, forgiveness, and grace!

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Lay It Down…

Remember peer editing from grade school? You would switch papers with your peer and they would edit your work? Some teachers would let you pick your peer, others would pick the peer for you. Sometimes the comments were nice and sometimes they were not.

In other words, you chose to be offended. That’s right, being offended is a choice! That’s a hard pill to digest because people can be downright mean and our feelings may even be justified but our response to the situation can make all the difference.

Offenses are thrown at our feet everyday. Someone cuts us off in traffic, another criticize our method of doing something, and some folks are in a bad mood so they are simply determined to make us feel bad as well. What remains is that the choice to be offended is yours. Will you transition the criticism to constructive feedback? Will you show grace and let that person who wants to cut you off in traffic into your lane? Will you pray for that person who have a bad day?

The answer is naturally found in scripture…

As the offense lay at your feet, choose to leave it there. And if you picked it up, lay it back down! We must consider the root of an issue before we respond. Is the person having the bad day in need of prayer? Could the constructive feedback give us a new way of doing the task? The person rushing and cutting folks off in traffic could be rushing to get to a loved one. While it’s not right for people to be mean and cruel, we must know that our response can be the catalyst for change!

Picking up the offense is easy and it gives us permission to moan and complain about someone doing us wrong. However, once it’s done, what’s next? However, choosing to lay down the offense can bring someone to Christ!

Your choice to forgive and to overlook an offense demonstrates the power of God at work in you and can draw someone to Christ! Forgiveness can accomplish more than being offended. We must lay it down-lay down the hurt, lay down the pain, lay down the offense!

Whatever you do, do not take the offense!

Show those who seek to offend you how strong you are by laying down the offense! Demonstrate to those who are out to offend that God has transformed and change your life and the old self is gone away! Your extension of forgiveness is a powerful witnessing tool. The extension of grace just shows how much grace has been extended to you by the Lord Almighty!

Lay down that weight of offense, my friend, it is not yours to carry.

Peace and Blessings

The Heart of the Matter…

As a sign of mourning, the children of Israel would tear their garments and place ash on their foreheads. This would be the signal of sadness, depression, the loss of someone, and other unfortunate moments. Once recovered, the ash would be removed and clothing restored.

Nowadays, we tend to function in the same capacity. Your loved ones know when you are going through-there may be tears, perhaps, yelling or maybe even silence. And as humans, emotions are woven into our DNA.

However, perhaps we can learn how to take heed to the exhortation of the Lord:

This word from the Lord tells us that it’s really about the heart of the matter. Yes, we see the tears. Yes, we may have our own version of torn clothes. Perhaps it all may even be warranted, however, what about the heart change? The transformation of the heart is needed as well.

Have you render your heart about this matter? You’ve cried, you’ve vented, and you’ve gotten angry, but have you prayed? Have you surrendered your heart for healing? Have you laid your heart on the altar about the situation?

Rend your heart so that bitterness won’t take root. Rend your heart so that you can be set free. Rend your heart so that you can extend forgiveness to others and to yourself.

The pain and frustration won’t go away with the tears and ash, the heart must be healed for wholeness.

Get to the heart of the matter…

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Praying Power…

You, my friend, have praying power! Yes, Sister Johnson may scream and shout. Yes, Sister Smith may speak in tongues. Neither of those ladies nor any other prayer powerhouses in your life takes away from the power that YOU possess!

The enemy wants you to believe that your prayers won’t be heard. He wants you to believe that God does not care about you or your prayers. He is a liar, please do not fall for his schemes. The less you pray, the further you are away from God.

Keep praying, continue to seek God. Your prayers ARE changing things! Your prayers is changing YOU! Healing, deliverance, and restoration are found in your prayers. Salvation, forgiveness, and mercy are found in your prayers.

Sisters Helping Sisters would like to give you the opportunity to use your praying power! On Saturday, February 29th at 9am EST, we will be holding a prayer call. This serves as a time to pray for the sisters in our lives as prayer is the most important step in helping others! Join in if you can! The number is (425) 436-6200 and the access code is 827208. All we ask is for you to have a prepared heart and the name of one lady whom you would like to prayer for. It can absolutely be your name!

If you can’t join in, let us know how we can pray for you! You can drop your requests in the comment section or feel free to send us an email at

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His Gift.

Jesus. Grace. Mercy. Forgiveness. His Holy Spirit. Love. Your breath. Your spiritual gift. Your loved ones. Joy. Peace. Patience. Prayer. His Presence. Your life.

We could fill thousands of pages and never touch on all of God’s gifts. In this season of giving, we can miss out on the One True Gift which is Jesus. But we must stay focused, He is the most amazing gift! And because of Him, we have access to all of the above mentioned blessings and more.

The gift of His Unchanging Hand is powerful and mighty. His consistency in a forever changing world offers security. His stability on shaky ground brings us peace. His faithfulness is the reason we have not been consumed.

And thank God that we are not consumed! We absolutely should be! Our salvation is an incredible gift! So thank God for His unchanging hand!

Thank God that He has not changed His mind about your spiritual gift, your ministry, your dream, and your purpose. Thank God that when our hands change all the time, His does not! You cannot be snatched from His hand. Thank God that when this world is rocky, His hands are not!

Thank God for this beautiful gift of His unchanging, steady, and secure hands.

Merry Christmas!

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Let it go…

Remember the show “Hoarders”? It is quite interesting to see the amount of things people hold on to and the reasons why they do. From newspapers to collectibles, the variety was endless (and entertaining). It was fascinating (and sometimes gross) to see the conditions of folks’ homes.

It begs to wonder if that’s what our insides look like as we hold on to bitterness, resentment, anger, and unforgiveness. Every time we declare to “forgive and not forget”, we are collecting and holding on to that negative memory. Every seed of envy, bitterness, and anger is sitting in our spirits, collecting dust and sprouting spiritual mold. Every grudge is damaging the strength and integrity of our spiritual man.

Declare today to stop letting that toxicity damage you from the inside out and LET IT GO! Let go of that which does not develop you, strengthen you or encourage you. Let go of that which hurt you. Let go of the things that bring you no joy. Jesus died on the cross for that pain and sorrow you are carrying around, let it go! You no longer have to hoard the hurt and pain. You no longer need to remember, choose to forgive AND forget-God did that for you!

You aren’t hearing from God? Perhaps your spiritual house is cluttered. There is a “…time to keep and a time to throw away…” (Ecclesiastes 3:6), what needs to be discarded? Sis, let it go. Be free from the clutter and distractions.

As scripture exhorts us to let it go: “Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old.” Isaiah 43:18, we have to trust in the Lord to fill that which is now empty and cleared. We have to believe that better is coming forth. Letting go of a toxic relationship makes room for healthy ones. Letting go of anger makes room for joy. Discard fear and you can receive contentment.

And as you de-clutter, discard, and remove, cling to this incredible truth:

Let it go.

Peace and Blessings


“They came to Bethsaida. They brought a blind man to him and begged him to touch him. He took the blind man by the hand and brought him out of the village. Spitting on his eyes and laying his hands on him, he asked him, “Do you see anything?” He looked up and said, “I see people — they look like trees walking.” Mark 8:22‭-‬24 CSB

The Lord is so methodical in His Word and His approach. He led the blind man out of the village. He spit on His eyes. And then He asks the man if He sees anything. Listen, the Lord does not need to wonder if what He did works! He is God in flesh, He knows that all power and authority rests in His hands! All healing, all power, all protection, is in His hands. Everything He does is full and complete. He is the fulfillment of the law.

He did this for us…

Again Jesus placed his hands on the man’s eyes. The man looked intently and his sight was restored and he saw everything clearly.” Mark 8:25

The (formerly) blind man didn’t leave the Lord. He didnt say that now he needed to figure it out on his own. He stayed. He believed the Lord.

The again was for us. We serve a one and done Lord. He does not need to do anything again. The again reveals the perservance needed to achieve our healing, our blessings, our heart’s desires.

How frequently do we pursue the Lord for that vision or dream we saw in part? How many of us pray again? How many of us fast again? How many of us praise again? Are we Jacob, unwilling to let go until we are blessed (Genesis 32:26)?

He will reveal the vision, we just need to ask again. He will restore, we just need to believe again. He will forgive, we just need to repent again. He will provide, we just need to trust Him again.

As you stand again, waiting for the Lord to move, be encouraged by the blind man’s willingness to be present and wait for the Lord to do it again. He waited his harvest, believe again and wait for yours.

Peace and Blessings


Sisters Helping Sisters usually post our devotionals on Tuesdays and Thursdays. This past Thursday, we dropped the ball. Instead of beating ourselves down, instead of criticizing ourselves, which is so easy to do, we made the hard decision to show ourselves a little grace.

Grace is making the decision not to condemn yourself, grace is exercising forgiveness, grace is getting back up again. Grace can be defined as “not giving yourself what you deserve” (Author Unknown). The Word tells us that grace is given by the Lord:

And if the Lord can give us grace, why won’t we extend grace to ourselves? When is the last time you showed yourself grace?

Maybe you forgot about that meeting. You burnt dinner. You neglected that obligation. Instead of condemnation, choose grace. Choose to get back up again. Choose to try again tomorrow.

My friend, you are not perfect and that is okay. You can achieve much when you opt to forgive yourself. Grace helps you not to make the same choice again. Be empowered by the gift of grace that the Heavenly Father extends to you each and every day. Trust in His gift, it saved your life (check out Ephesians 2:8-9).

As you propel forward in your day, be strengthened by this exhortation: “May grace and peace be multiplied to you through the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord.” 2 Peter 1:2 CSB

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The Necessity of Judas

We were created for relationships. Our need for one another is the design of the Father. In order to even be created, we need our mothers and fathers to come together. Then we need our mothers to feed us in her womb. Once born, we need our caregivers to provide love, clothing, food, and shelter. This does not end once we hit that magical and adult age of 18. The need for others just shift…

We are wired to need love, care and compassion in our adulthood. Oh, not to mention the food, clothing, and shelter. Somewhere as we journey throughout life, we will need another person, simply because God wired us that way.

No matter what, relationships with others are necessary. Great caregivers, good friends, and loved ones make for an enriching life experience. Its not the number of people, its the quality.

Peter, John, and James were all keyplayers in the life of Jesus. They were not perfect, but they demonstrate how necessary good people are to our life’s story.

However, our enemies also eqiup us with an enriching life experience. They teach us how to overcome adversity and how to endure trials. They teach us how to suffer. Suffering is a necessary part of the human experience! In the list of promises God gives, suffering is one of them (2 Timothy 3:12)! Without pain and difficulties, how would we know that the Lord heals, that the Holy Spirit comforts, and God restores?

So just like Peter, James, and John, Judas was necessary. His betrayal sent Jesus to the cross. Without His sacrifice on the cross, our sins would not be forgiven and the battle would not be won. Without Judas, our relationship with the Father would be restrictive.

Our enemies are necessary. Our personal “Judas” is necessary. Without them, we wouldn’t have a personal testimony of restoration and healing. Without them, how would we know that we are more than conquerors? Without them, how would we know the fruit that suffering produces?

Appreciate your Johnathan and John. Their love, compassion, and friendship are necessary! Also, appreciate your Judas. Their hurt, pain, and betrayal helps you understand just how close the Lord is to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). They, too, are necessary.

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